The 4PLAY Club
Canada's National Capital Swingers Club
Homepage: the4playclub.com
E-Mail: 4play@the4playclub.com
What To Expect At Swing Clubs
Most people have a preconceived idea of what a swing club is. Many people, including the general public, think that it's just one big orgy and you check your clothes at the door and then dive right in, doing anything you want with whomever you like. Nothing could be further from the truth! Most swing clubs are adult social clubs where you'll meet and form friendships with some of the nicest people you've ever met. Some swing clubs are on-premise with an emphasis on the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. In some cases, you'll form bonds that will last a lifetime. Here's how it works...
When you walk into a swing club for the very first time, or a new swing club for experienced swingers, you are probably very nervous. You probably won't know anyone there. You might feel like everyone is watching you, just like in High School when a new kid first came into class. This is a very good sign, especially for club owners! That means you're normal because that's exactly how every normal person feels their first time. Nervous, apprehensive, curious and of course more than a little excited with the anticipation and expectations of a sexy, erotically orgasmic night!
You might expect a lot when you first come to a club and that's probably the biggest cause of anxiety for first time visitors. We realize that for many men it's hard to not think about fulfilling all your fantasies about orgies and threesomes involving the man with two women, etc... That could be a huge mistake. As a first time visitor, ladies are usually more nervous about the evening, and one sure way to add fuel to that nervous fire is for her to see her partner bouncing off the walls with excitement about jumping into an orgy or looking overly anxious about being with anyone new and that is not his mate.
The best way to approach the evening is with only one single expectation, and that is to have a fun time together. For your first visit to any swing club, plan on having a nice social gathering with sexually liberated couples and enjoying the sexually charged dancing, meeting and possibly playing with other couples. This way you'll both be completely comfortable, she's not worried about him wanting to dive into the first orgy he sees and he's not worried about deciding who is worthy of touching his precious lady.
1st Time Out At An Off-Premise Club
At the end of the night after socializing, dancing and playing, you will both go home with each other and after dancing or playing all evening in such a sexually charged environment you will both have the best mind-blowing orgasms during your love-making that you've had in years, probably recharging your sex life and supercharging your relationship or your marriage. The memory of your first time out to a swing club, will probably last a lifetime.
While on the crowded dance floor during one of the slow songs, you're dancing together and an attractive couple is dancing beside you and their clothes are coming off, or body parts are being exposed and you find their bodies rubbing against yours on the dance floor. You both respond by touching and caressing them back, if the feeling is mutual. Then after the song, you disappear into the crowd enjoying the excitement of the nameless pleasure of this slight sexy anonymous encounter.
You are both so turned on by the evening that you go into a corner of the dance floor or venture into playrooms if available. You enjoy great sex together by being in a different place and knowing that right beside you on the dance floor or playroom, or on the other side of the wall, another couple (or threesome, foursome or moresome) is doing the same. In fact you can even see the couples playing sexually beside you or even hear the sounds of sex through the walls or curtains which multiplies your excitement.
Most of the sex enjoyed at off-premise clubs does not include intercourse. You may see it on occasion in a dark corner, because most off-premise clubs are held in a public place or building and club owners will not publicly admit or allow open sexual intercourse. In almost all off-premise clubs you will be permitted to sexually fondle and play with a few quick blow jobs here and there, not to mention get completely naked on the dance floor with other couples or your partner. Most off-premise clubs have the largest attendance of adult clubs mainly due to the fact that they hold more social and dance functions on a weekly basis that attracts all stages of swingers, voyeurs, exhibitionists, wanabees and many levels of sexual play. If you are not sure what might interest you in the lifestyle or what level of play you are willing to go to, it is very important you attend off-premise clubs first! Attend an off-premise club first especially if you or your partner is not sure, but wants to take a look first.
1st Time Out At An On-Premise Club
If both of you are horny little devils and very sexually active with each other at home and the sexual aspect of the swinging lifestyle is the driving force for both of you getting involved for the first time, then an on-premise club will be a very pleasurable sexual experience that will be remembered for a lifetime. Most first time couples are very anxious for the next party, but there are many new feelings and experiences that do take time getting used to.
In addition to the erotic stimulating fun at an off-premise club, you should expect a lot more of sexual play and physical interaction with other couples at on-premise clubs including full intercourse. Many first time couples agree on playing as soft swingers (all sexual play with no intercourse). Even if both of you have decided to play and have sex only with each other, you must expect that you will be approached by other sexually active couples and invited to play together. Be polite and let the couple know that it is your first time out and you are sharing the evening with your own partner, but thank them for asking! If both of you have agreed to be more adventurous on your first time out, you might both decide to be a little adventurous.
You decide to dress up in sexy attire or lingerie. Many couples will get naked and go to a group room or jacuzzi if available for a freedom where you can enjoy being naked, but since you're shy your first visit you feel comfortable being in the water or group room where your hands can roam, playing with each other (and maybe others too) under water and not in obvious plain view of everyone, (even though others might be engaged in all sorts of easily viewable activities in and around the group room or jacuzzi and you).
You both know that you want to see or do more, but you're not sure about how much you want to participate in. So you venture into other party rooms or group areas. Some clubs you will find mattress covering the entire room, surrounded by mirrored walls or tropical plants, lighting, ceiling fans and naked bodies.... Lots of them. You don't get on the mattress, but instead you view all the exciting sexual activities in the room, yet far enough away to accommodate your comfort zone. As you stand there naked or sexually attired, you feel like you're part of the activities though not needing to participate in them. It's like you're sitting in an adult theater watching the most erotic orgy you've ever seen, except this time it isn't a movie... The action is real and live with an invitation to join the real action! Most on-premise clubs use mattresses on the floor for safety, more couples can play at the same time and you can get into many more sexual positions.
You see the couple you were slow dancing beside on the dance floor and there is room next to them so you decide to lay down beside them or in most cases you will be invited to join them. You begin kissing and playing with your mate when after a little while the lady of the couple beside you gently touches your arm to extend an invitation to touch them back. You respond to her touch not really knowing yet how much touching or caressing will take place, but knowing full well that either couple can say no at any time and set any limits they desire. Maybe the ladies only touch each other while the men each pleasure their own ladies.
Maybe the men are massaging both the ladies’ entire bodies or maybe the ladies are stroking the other man while having sex with her partner. (Always play gentle with a new couple, until you know the preferred level of play.) Who knows what might happen this special magical night, it's all up to you and those involved with you. Maybe she might enjoy giving you oral while her partner services her from behind, you'll be sure to see plenty of that going on at many clubs. And maybe you'll engage in full partner sharing with a complete exchange of partners... It's entirely up to you and those involved, this is your night, you set your own limits as a couple.
Things That Usually Cum True at 4PLAY
Socializing for 15 to 45 minutes which includes introductions, stories and a few munchies, usually followed by an erotic dance or two with couples mixing and meeting a new partner or erotically playing with your own partner in a very small and cozy dance area. Most of our members are not shy and will be happy to introduce themselves to you in a very friendly way.
Many of the ladies will change or have already changed into their favorite lingerie. Most couples or members partner up with someone new or invite a new couple to join the group or couple in one of our three group play rooms. We recommend that couples find a partner that is sexually exciting for each of them and not to focus on finding a couple.
Many couples will play with a new partner or their mate for one hour usually interacting in some way with the other couples around them, which includes caressing, fondling, encouraging, fallating and many other mixes of threesomes, foursomes or more depending on the sexual appetite and attraction with the couples around you. The cardinal rule of "NO MEANS NO!" is paramount at all swing clubs and must be respected by all members.
None of our members are pushy or aggressive in nature, but if you are willing and open to varieties of sexual play, our parties are never boring. We do our best to screen all members for a well rounded and healthy attitude towards the sexual aspect of swinging. If any member becomes pushy or aggressive, they will be asked to leave and will not be invited back. Most couples in the swinging lifestyle are very outgoing, friendly and sincere with all new couples. Swinging is a very safe environment when you are with a large group of swingers, especially for first time swingers.
Every persons comfort level is different and does change over time. Approximately 30% of all new couples will stay and play with their own partner the first time out, while the other 70% of first time couples will sexually interact with our members in different levels of sexual play. Many first time couples will sexually interact with new couples with no intercourse.
There are many fantasies that are fulfilled at our club. Many men have a fantasy for their first MFF threesome. Threesomes are very common at our club, but it is very polite to ask a couple before joining in. Some first time couples jump right in to the whole experience and have a super time. It is very important to play to a mutually agreed comfort level for both of you.
Some couples see or experience their first Gang Bang. All of our members attend for the sexual aspect of the lifestyle and they love to dress up and party. Almost all of our ladies love lingerie and is the best theme for a swingers club.
Some ladies have a fantasy for multiple penetration. Most couples take a breather after the 1st hour of sexual play and gives us the opportunity to serve the hot food. Most couples will eat, socialize and in many cases play with a new sexual partner or their own mate for a few more hours of erotic fun. Some kind of desert, tea & coffee are always available before you leave.
Many women want and do experience their first BI-SEXUAL play with another woman at our parties. We do our best to create a very warm, erotic atmosphere for all kinds of sexual play with other couples who are interested in the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. Many couples head home in the early hours of the morning and some continue to play or socialize until 4:00a.m.
Most couples do not match up with another couple for a foursome right off the start. It can be very difficult to have four people match the first time out to any club. Many couples will individually match up with another sexually attracted person and go off to a play area as a foursome. Many couples will have three or more sexual playmates during the course of the evening.
Some of our lady members love Greek! After playing and meeting many individuals, you will be surprised to find out that you and your partner have found a few couples that appear to match in social hobbies, fetishes and sexual appeal between all four people. This becomes your opportunity to exchange phone numbers and arrange a possible private get together at a future date. The more people you interact with and more club parties you attend, your list of compatible playmates and couples will continue to grow. This will lead you to more private and intimate parties at a smaller scale.
