The Capital Couples Club
Canada's National Capital Swingers Club
Homepage: the4playclub.com
E-Mail: ccc@the4playclub.comFIRST TIME OUT
10 Steps To Successful Swinging At C3
Swinging Lifestyle Convention - HedonismWhat Should We Do To Enjoy Our First Time Out?
Many new couples ask us what things should they do or what should they bring etc. on their first time to our club. Most new couples are nervous and want all the details they can get to make them feel more comfortable when they attend their first club or swing party.
You should feel a bit nervous but excited as well. These ten tips will really help you feel like a regular member in a short period of time. Most new couples are truly surprised how nice all the the couples were to them at the club and how excited the first experience has made them.
STEP ONE: CUM Prepared
Think of your night out as a first date. Be sure both of you clean up, shower, shave, deodorant, brush your teeth, perfume, cologne, breath mints, trim nails, etc. Bring proper ID to prove who you are.Be prepared for any possibility, such as condoms and a travel bag in your car with extra clothes, hair brush, robes, lingerie, tooth brush etc. in case you get invited out after the club party. Make little cards with your first names and email address on it for couples you match with.
Every party is different and you never know who you will meet or match with during the evening. If you prepare for every possibility, you will feel in control of every situation that might cum up at our parties or after our parties.
STEP TWO: Dress For Success
We do not have a dress code, but you will attract many more couples if you dress casual, but sexy. Most men will wear dress slacks with a loose fitting shirt. Most ladies will dress up very sensual or wear something more sexual underneath other clothing.If you feel more comfortable in jeans, we have no restrictions on your choice of clothing. We highly recommend all of your clothing makes you feel comfortable and is clean and sexy to attract new people. You will rarely see any suits and ties at our events.
STEP THREE: Leave Your Inhibitions At Home
The swinging lifestyle should be exciting and fun. You need to leave your jealousy and inhibitions at home. Be willing to let your partner have a good time and give them the space to show off and experiment in our club environment. It is very important and will be rewarding for both of you, if you truly want to see your partner have a good time.If you get very jealous seeing your partner talk with the opposite sex, you should reconsider joining the swinging lifestyle. The majority of all swing couples are looking for recreational sex or erotic play in a playful atmosphere with other consenting adults. Almost all swing couples are in love with their own partner and not looking for a new life partner.
STEP FOUR: Arrive Early
This is very important if you are new or even for the more experienced swinger. You will feel much more relaxed if you arrive before the crowd and you will have the opportunity to watch the other couples arriving as the evening goes on. You will have a longer time to meet and socialize with new couples before the evening gets more erotic and playful. You get to check out everyone else slowly as they come in.The early bird gets the worm, or, well, you get the idea! If you wish to attract couples to join you, it is very helpful that both of you sit opposite each other (an open posture) at any table. If you sit beside each other (a defensive posture), the evening will tend to be a very social occasion for both of you. If you only want a social evening, be sure to sit, side by side.
STEP FIVE: Circulate The Club or Party
Moving around the club is strongly encouraged. The most successful couples will ensure they visit everyone in the club at least once during the evening. It will help you get rid of the jitters and really helps you meet new couples and gain confidence quickly.Tell couples your first names and let them know that you are new. You will find that many couples will be out for their first time and just as nervous as both of you. If you wait for couples to meet you, the chances of meeting a matching couple will be greatly reduced.
Many people are nervous, but still want to meet couples. Take the chance and begin a conversation with others. Any conversation will get people talking and being new will get many exciting topics in the forefront of topics.
STEP SIX: Stay The Whole Evening
Once again, the longer you stretch out your evening, the more relaxing it becomes, and the more people you can potentially meet. Also, couples continue to arrive at the club till 10:00pm. If you leave early, you miss out on meeting them.Our parties and dances get much hotter as the night goes on. We do understand that some of you must leave early for baby-sitters or a long drive home or even working the next day. If you can stay the whole evening, you will definitely benefit in meeting many playful couples.
STEP SEVEN: Get Involved
Couples who participate in our theme nights by dressing to our Jean night theme or sexy lingerie will have a warmer participant feeling than someone watching from the sidelines. We have some very nice prizes available for our contests and some of our theme nights as well.Don't be shy to enter our best chest or best buns contest etc. Our members are not shy and it gives you the opportunity to show off a little in front of a very understanding audience. Participation also makes you blend into the crowd and not stand out as the loner or stranger.
STEP EIGHT: Be Polite & Courteous
You will be approached by many people. Some of them you will like and others you might not know how you feel. If you approach someone for a dance and they turn you down, don't burn any bridges and think or say something terrible. No does not mean no forever or is degrading you in any way. Not everyone is a match and saying NO or No Thank you is very polite and no other reason is necessary.If you smile, be friendly and approachable, you will make many friends and make others feel comfortable around you. People who focus on one early rejection can put a on a sour face and will not attract any other person with a cloud hanging over their head.
It is very normal to be nervous on your first time out at any new club, especially if it is your first time out in the lifestyle. Many new couples will have a drink or two to calm their nerves, but too much will not make you very likable. No person likes a drunk and we will warn or ban couples that drink to excess!
STEP NINE: Be Yourselves & Enjoy The Evening
This may sound silly, but many people forget to be themselves. If you like showing off, you can do so after we lock the doors at 10:00pm. Don't be shy to let others know what you enjoy at home. The old saying of "Ask and you will receive!" can be very true in the swinging lifestyle for many people.Many members of our club enjoy different things like leather, lingerie, rubber, toys, exhibitionism, voyeurism, spanking, bondage, making home movies, gang bangs, bisexuality and much more. When you tell us or others about your interest, we can quickly match you up with other people who enjoy the same things you do in the bedroom.
You can do a great deal in our club environment, but we have ZERO tolerance for illegal drugs, prostitution, aggressive people or drunks. We do encourage sensual or sexual play, nudity, sexy lingerie and many other exciting swinging activities among consenting adults.
STEP TEN: Privacy Is Paramount
Every person in the swinging lifestyle values their privacy. What you see or hear at any club party must stay at that party. Never push or pry into another persons personal life or work life. If you respect every members privacy, they will respect yours.If any person offers you contact information, ensure you remain discreet. Many couples have other family or children that live at home or have access to the home computer. Always be on the safe side and confirm you have the right person on the phone etc.
We do not permit any person to bring cameras or any other recording device into any of our parties or dances. Most swingers do not want their picture in the newspapers or on the internet.
FINAL STEP: CUM Back Again
Every dance party or private party at The Capital Couples Club is different. You will meet a whole new group on your next visit. Especially if you are new, you will need more than just one or two visits to get a real “feel” for the lifestyle. No two evenings are the same!Some dance parties can get very HOT and others are a great mix of social and erotic dancing. Many couples experience what we call a 50/50 experience, where one partner will have a fantastic time and the other partner will be luke warm. On their next visit, the experience is usually reversed. This does happen often and is normal in swinging. If both of you had a fantastic time at the same party, consider yourselves very lucky! This is why a few visits is important for both of you.
