The 4PLAY Club
Canada's National Capital Swingers Club
 

Introduction

We would like to thank you for visiting our web site and especially taking the time to learn a bit about us.  You will not find any pics of us on our main web site.  Our pics are only available to members of our two clubs in our members only sections and to a few couples that we send pics to before meeting each other in person.  We own and operate our own family business during the week and we do our best to keep our lifestyle activities within the lifestyle community and keep our public activities separate from each other.

 

About Us

Doug was born in 1959 and is straight, Sharon in 1958 and is BI selective.  Both of our birth signs are Aquarius.  We have been happily married since 1977 and we have two children.  We have been actively involved in swinging since 1978.  In that time we have met numerous couples in Europe, Canada and the United States that have been actively involved in swinging for similar periods of time or less.  Both of our children are young adults and know that we are involved in the swinging lifestyle.  Most swing couples are married with children.

 

Full Swap Swingers

We are FULL SWAP SWINGERS and started out that way in 1978.  This is a sharing of each other with new partners for full sexual play including intercourse.  We enjoy everything that the entire lifestyle has to offer and have never been bored with it.  Our first experience was a good one and probably made all the difference in the world for us staying in the lifestyle to this day.  This is the primary reason that we believe that helping new couples have a good first experience in the lifestyle is so important for keeping new couples in the lifestyle.  A bad experience on the first time out can keep couples out of the lifestyle for a lifetime!

We are NOT into S&M, B&D or humiliation etc.  Our entire experimenting in the lifestyle is for fun and pleasure.  We have experimented in light bondage and some dressing up.  We still swing with couples from 20 years ago.  We love socializing with many of our lifestyle friends at BBQ's, movies, dinners out etc.  Both of us are non smokers.  We are always open to new ideas with our sexual playmates and willing to try new things with the right people.

 

Placing Ads

You will only find information about us on this web site!  We have never placed a personals ad in a newspaper or magazine, because there was never a need to.  We have found so many couples through friends and other couples clubs.  Word of mouth is the best advertising.  Most swingers will not place ads on the internet or magazines.  Placing ads is the most time consuming, costly and dangerous method of contacting couples in the lifestyle than any other method of contact.  Many of our friends who have placed ads over the years have had a few good experiences but far too many bad ones to count.  The internet has become the most important and influential method for couples to locate groups and adult clubs, travel, parties for lifestyle activities than any other method in history!

The most important thing we have come to learn about swinging in all this time is that couples are not what they appear on the outside.  A couples size, shape, colour, race, religion etc. does not tell you how sexual they are on the inside or how sexually active they can become physically when you get them hot.  The most important thing about a new sexual playmate is a healthy ATTITUDE towards their sexuality and willingness to share themselves with other matching people.  Having someone look like the perfect 10 in your eyes, does not mean they will be good in bed or enjoyable socializing with.

 

Making Mistakes

In our early years of swinging, we did ask friends and neighbors to join us for sex, with terrible results in most cases!  We will never approach couples in this manner EVER again!!!  We thought of placing ads for a very long time, but we heard terrible stories from other couples who went this route.  We decided to attend adult swing clubs and find other true swingers like ourselves.  We never knew that there was so many adult clubs out there!  The internet has recently opened up the world of swinging to many new couples and helped many active swingers meet similar couples from all over the world.

We have made many mistakes in swinging over the years and have seen many of our sexual playmates make mistakes as well.  It is very helpful to learn from others mistakes before making them yourselves.  We searched the internet for a comprehensive guide for swingers and were not able to find it.  There are many sites out there with the same information, but very little info for the beginner swinger!  We decided to create this web site with the BEGINNER in mind.  We wanted to let new couples know about all the do's and don'ts with helpful advise we wish we had many years ago.  We are now writing a book on the lifestyle called "The Practical Guide To Swinging" an inside look and guide to the swinging lifestyle.  We hope to have the book published in 2002, our 25th wedding anniversary.

 

Condoms

Both of us prefer not to use condoms with our sexual partners.  We will always use them when asked or if we are not sure about a new couple we are getting together with.  The majority of our sexual encounters are without the use of condoms.  We have never contracted an STD in all our years of swinging, primarily due to the fact that STD's among swingers are rare and we are very careful in choosing the couples we get together with.  Most swingers are middle to upper class, married with children and keep themselves very clean.  We prefer the natural feeling of skin on skin and find that condoms take away that little extra feeling of sensuality that we both enjoy.

Almost all STD's are curable, except for AIDS and HERPES.  Condoms will not protect you from these two non curable diseases.  They will definitely help a little, but people forget that some of these diseases are also contracted through kissing, sores, towels, sharing needles etc.  The majority of swingers do not use drugs!

The two biggest advantages during sexual foreplay, is the opportunity for you to feel for any lumps or bumps, sores etc. on a new partners sexual organs, as well as any bad odors.  If something does not feel or smell OK, then stay away from oral or penetration of any kind.

 

Pet Peeves

People that push their partner or family member into the lifestyle!  We see this far too often in the lifestyle.  People that cheat on their married partner without consent or permission.  Some couples are not a sexual match and some couples recognize this and give approval for one to play in the lifestyle which can keep their marriage healthy.  People cheating will almost always get caught and bring terrible results to their relationship or marriage.

 

People who break their own rules between each other.  Some couples agree on using condoms or no sexual intercourse or no kissing etc., but we see some people break the rules if they think their partner is in another room or not able to see them.  This does not happen very often, but is agonizing to see a person breaking a rule we know their partner would be upset about.  In most cases the other partner always finds out, because not all couples know about everyone's rules.  For example, an agreement not to have intercourse and someone has a quickie fuck in a private room, later to hear the recipient thank them in a common area or in front of their partner for the great fuck they were just given.

 

Single males desperately trying every method know to man to get into a lifestyle couples club.  Their are thousands of clubs for singles to meet other singles, but the hundreds of couples clubs are magnets for single males thinking the opportunities for free sex are available to them if they could just get in the club.  Many single males will lie, cheat, threaten or try to bribe their way into couples clubs.  Most of them don't realize that the sex in swinging is consensual and not a free for all.  Some of the single males that do get accepted or manage to cheat their way into a club are surprised to find out that most of the ladies do not find their attitude sexually appealing.

Couples lying to get what they want out of the lifestyle.  Many couples are looking for a bisexual female and many will lie to other couples just to get the bi female in a private setting away from their partner.  Couples wanting this experience need to attend larger group functions where many threesome opportunities are available without lies.

Drinking and driving don't mix, drinking and swinging can also be a big mistake if you have too much to drink!  Many new couples are nervous when they first enter the lifestyle.  This is normal and a few drinks will help in relaxing you.  If you are a heavy drinker at home, your chances of having a smooth entry into the swinging lifestyle are almost impossible.  We see a number of new couples drinking far too much to get comfortable.  Heavy drinking will actually repel couples away from you.  If you are going to drink, at least stay away from all forms of hard liquor!

 

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