LOTS OF SEX  Do you have sexual intercourse on a very regular basis?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category that you feel you are in for sexual intercourse with your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner, not wish to do.

Category "A" once or twice a month.
Category "B" several times a month.
Category "C" two or three times a week.
Category "XXX" five or more times a week

We have found that most swingers are extremely active with their partner at home, having sex five or more times a week.  This one question can easily identify a couple that has a love for the sport of swinging.
 

Question Two

EXPERIMENTING  Do you experiment or try different things to excite your partner during sexual play?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for experimenting with your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner, not wish to do.

Category "A" watching adult movies.
Category "B" have sex outside the bedroom.
Category "C" using sexual toys.
Category "D" changing the atmosphere with lights or playing sexual or erotic music.
Category "E" talking sexy or dirty during intercourse.
Category "F" going to a nudist beach or sex out doors.
Category "G" I would love to try a new sexual partner.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Most swingers that we have met have always experimented from day one and continue to experiment in the lifestyle.  If you and your partner love to experiment with sex, then you will enjoy watching your partner being played with or playing with other couples.

 

Question Three

DRESSING UP  Do you clean up, dress up or put on sexy outfits to attract your partner before sex? Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for dressing up for your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner, not wish to do.

Category "A" washing up and cleaning up before sex.
Category "B" putting on perfume or cologne.
Category "C" sexy boxers or sexy nylons.
Category "D" changing into a sexy thong or lingerie.
Category "E" I would love to show off or attract another person with my body or outfit.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Almost every active swinger we have met loves to dress up in sexy outfits for their partner.  If you love to tease or excite your partner by wearing very revealing outfits or dressing more erotically on evenings out or at home, you will love wearing them for other couples and showing off in front of your partner.
 

 

Question Four

SEXUAL APPETITE  Do you enjoy having more than one orgasm during sex?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for sexual play with your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner, not wish to do.

Category "A" I love getting my partner off more than once.
Category "B" I love to have sex more than once during the same day or night.
Category "C" I love being teased during the day before intercourse.
Category "D" I love making my partner have an orgasm.
Category "E" I wish I could have sex with more than one partner during a night.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

If both of you help each other have more than one orgasm during one session of sex, this healthy appetite is an excellent indicator that swinging will be very enjoyable for both of you.
 

Question Five

VOYEURISM  Do you love watching your partner masturbate?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for watching your partner play with themselves.  This is what you actually do with your partner, not wish to do.

Category "A" I love watching my partner play with themselves.
Category "B" I love seeing my partner have an orgasm on their own.
Category "C" I love watching sexually explicit XXX movies.
Category "D" I take notice of the opposite sex walking down the street and think, I would love to play with that person if I had the chance.
Category "E" I would love to watch my partner have sex with a different partner.
Category "F" I would love to watch another person make my partner have an orgasm.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

All swingers are voyeurs to some degree, and watching your partner or other couples having sex is key to having fun at swing club events.  All on-premise swingers that we have met, love to watch their partner having sex.
 

 

Question Six

FANTASIES  Do you talk about your sexual fantasies?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for discussing your fantasies with your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner and wish to do.

Category "A" I love getting my partner hot by talking about my fantasies.
Category "B" I love hearing my partner tell me about their fantasies.
Category "C" I hope that some of my fantasies come true in the future.
Category "D" I hope that my partner is willing to help me fulfill some of my fantasies.
Category "E" I really want to see my partners fantasies fulfilled.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Almost all swingers we have met during our twenty years of swinging, love to discuss and plan events that fulfill their partners fantasies and especially helping other couples fulfilling their fantasies.  Most new couples have never had a threesome or more!  If many of your fantasies have been about multiple partners at the same time, then a swingers club is definitely the place to ask and have your fantasies fulfilled.

Question Seven

MULTIPLE SEXUAL INTERESTS  Are you looking for another man, women, bi women, couple, threesome, foursome, group or sex club?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for multiple interests with your partner.  This is what you would like to do.

Category "A" I have a bi interest in the same sex or see my partner with the same sex.
Category "B" I would love to try a new partner.
Category "C" I would love to try a threesome with my partner.
Category "D" I would love to find a couple to play with us.
Category "E" I would like to visit an erotic club for adults.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Many couples are very surprised that there are so many couples with the same interests as you and are still looking for a third person or couple to match up with.  Most couples clubs or swingers groups know of many single men and women or couples who are looking for you.
 

Question Eight

FIRST STEPS  Have you attempted to invite another single or couple to come and join you in a sexual get together, or even thought about it?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for first steps with your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner, or wish to do.

Category "A" I have asked some friends or neighbors to have sex with us or thought about it.
Category "B" I have thought about placing adds to find a couple or single.
Category "C" I have thought about visiting an adult swing club.
Category "D" I have looked at other peoples adds in a magazine or on the internet.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

For most new couples this is the first step we all took when experimenting in the lifestyle.  Most swingers will tell you that their first attempts with friends, neighbors or the personals was a disaster.  It is extremely difficult to turn your friends and neighbors into lovers, as compared to turning your lovers into friends.  If both of you have made this first step into the lifestyle, you are shopping for a great product, but you are shopping in the wrong store.  Most active swingers are easily contacted and approached at Erotic Social Clubs or Private Clubs.
 

 

Question Nine

JEALOUSY  Have you look forward to or fantasized about another person playing with your partner?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in with your partner.  This is what you wish to do.

Category "A" I would love to see my partner playing with someone new.
Category "B" I would love to see my partner having an orgasm with a new partner.
Category "C" I would love to see my partner play with more than one new partner.
Category "D" I would love to see my partner act like a slut.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

If both of you have had the same feelings about watching your partner being played with, your high libido will make all the difference in the world when it comes to jealousy.  All couples experience jealousy when getting involved in the lifestyle for the first time.  Jealousy can be a very powerful enemy or excellent tool to spice up or enhance your relationship with your partner.  We have seen many couples enter the lifestyle where the male partner convinces or encourages the female partner to try an adult club for the first time and in most cases the female partner is usually the quickest to get involved and enjoys themselves immensely, leaving the male partner upset or jealous that his partner is having a better time than himself.

 

Question Ten

SWINGERS  Do you want to have sex with other couples or singles?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in.  This is what you actually do with your partner, not wish to do.

Category "A" I want to have sex with a different partner.
Category "B" I would love two people to have sex with me at the same time.
Category "C" I just want to go out and have sex, not fall in love.
Category "D" I want to be a bit of a slut and let others play with me sexually.
Category "E" I want to share my partner sexually with different people.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

If both of you have the same interest in meeting other couples for sexual encounters you may be ready to get involved with an adult club of private parties.  If one of you is not sure or has doubts, you should start asking questions via email or by phone to clubs and other couples already in the lifestyle to help answer your questions.

We would be happy to answer any of your questions, but we have to be very honest with you that this lifestyle is not for everyone!  One of you may take to the lifestyle very well and the other partner may hate it or be so uncomfortable that we would recommend you wait or take smaller steps into the lifestyle.  Some couples take to the lifestyle like a duck to water, many do not.
 

 

Question Eleven

EXHIBITIONISM  Do you love to show off in private or take risks in public places?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in for showing off with your partner.  This is what you actually do with your partner, or wish to do.

Category "A" I love showing off to my partner.
Category "B" I love showing off my partner or teasing them in a public place.
Category "C" I love having sex out doors or would love to try it.
Category "D" I would love to show off in an adult club.
Category "E" I love it when my partner shows off for me or likes me showing off.
Category "F" I would love to have sex with my partner in front of other couples.
Category "G" I would love to give a blow job to my partner while others watched.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

A little or a lot of exhibitionism is healthy (keeping within the law) and is a definite hit at adult clubs and private parties.  Most swingers are not shy to show it off or flaunt it!  Revealing your body parts at on-premise clubs is expected and encouraged.
 

 

Question Twelve

FETISHES  Do you or your partner have a special fetish or interest or even been afraid to ask your partner about?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel might apply to you.  This is what you actually do with your partner, or wish to do.

Category "A" I have a fetish with feet, breasts, cocks, balls, kissing, dressing up, or licking.
Category "B" I wish I could have my partner perform more of my favorite fetish or desire.
Category "C" I hope my partner will let me explore my fetish with new partners.
Category "D" I hope to try a bi experience or watch my partner have one.
Category "E" I hope another partner will either tie me down, talk dirty to me, cum on me, treat me like a slut, pee on me, take a shower with me, dress up for me, share me with a friend, or film me etc.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Many couples are surprised to learn that their partner has an interest to have a bi experience or loves to be held down or tied up.  Many couples get a chance to really learn about their partners fantasies and desires when in a group of sexually active couples.  If you asked your partner about the opportunity to be held down or played with by several members of the opposite sex, or act like a sex starved slut and have sex with three or more people in one night, you might be very surprised on the answer.

 

Question Thirteen

FIRST CONTACT  Have you wanted to experiment with another man or woman?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in with your partner.  This is what you wish to do.

Category "A" I would love to play with a new partner sexually.
Category "B" I would love to have two people of the opposite sex play with me sexually.
Category "C" I would love to try a bi experience or watch my partner try one.
Category "D" I would love to watch my partner have an orgasm with the same sex partner.
Category "E" I would like to see my wife suck on two different cocks at the same time or two women sucking my husbands cock at the same time.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

We hear it time and time again at on-premise parties, even with couples who have been in the lifestyle for a short while, "I did not know she wanted to do that, or I can't believe she made love to that women".  Many women are afraid to ask their partner for two men at the same time. Many men are uncomfortable with coming in contact with another man, but when given the opportunity to have two penises in their partners vagina, some barriers do come down.
 

 

Question Fourteen

NERVOUS  Have you or your partner been a little afraid or nervous to ask about or visit an erotic social club?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in.  This is what you actually feel.

Category "A" I am a bit nervous trying a different partner.
Category "B" I am a bit nervous trying an adult club.
Category "C" I am a bit nervous about my size, shape, colour, or performance etc.
Category "D" I am a bit nervous about diseases or someone pushing me.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

It is normal for one or both of you to feel afraid of starting something new.  All new couples are nervous on their first visit to a new club and have numerous questions such as what will we see, what can we do, what can't we do, how many couples come out and many more.  Always talk to the hosts of the new club you are about to visit.  All swingers clubs want you to feel comfortable and secure.

 

Question Fifteen

CURIOUS  Have you been a little curious about what goes on at erotic social clubs or private swingers parties?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in.  This is what you actually feel.

Category "A" I am very curious about adult swing clubs.
Category "B" I am curious and excited about a new partner playing with me sexually.
Category "C" I would really like to see and participate with other sexually active couples.
Category "D" I am very curious what the difference is between adult clubs and private parties.
Category "E" I am very curious about swinging and excited about all the sexual possibilities.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Almost all new couples are very curious about the swingers lifestyle, usually because both of you have talked about it for some time during sex.  If both of you have discussed the possibilities in detail with each other, the anticipation should have both of you hot and bothered to do something about it.  If one of you has no interest or excitement about the swingers lifestyle, you should wait until the idea of participating is exciting for both of you.  If you have to persuade or push your partner into the lifestyle, it will meet with terrible results.  Some couples discuss the idea for years before experimenting in the swingers lifestyle.  Every couple and person is different.
 

 

Question Sixteen

PHONE SEX  Do you engage in any form of phone sex or cyber sex or talking dirty with your partner or other couples?  Yes or No?

Beside your answer, write down the category or multiple categories that you feel you are in.  This is what you actually do with your partner, or wish to do.

Category "A" I love talking dirty to my partner or would love trying to turn someone else on.
Category "B" I love reading hot sexy stories or wish I could participate in them.
Category "C" I love teasing my partner or having them tease me on the phone or in letters.
Category "D" I love the idea of a new partner talking dirty to me on the phone or internet.
Category "XXX" all of the above.

Many swingers love to tease their partner on the phone if they are away from home.  Sometimes the sexual teasing will be in the form of letters or evening phone calls.  When given the opportunity to talk more openly about sex with other couples on the phone or computer, you will be surprised what you can accomplish over the phone or on the internet.
 

 

Tabulating Your Results

10 points for every YES answer.
(-5) points for every NO answer.
1 point for every Category A-H
10 points for every Category XXX
(maximum score 320 points)
See where you fit in!

Individual Results

Scores between 0-50
Never attempt getting into the swinging lifestyle!!  You will have great difficulty with any partner trying to get you into any club or swing activity.  You would not find the swinging lifestyle enjoyable at all.  You would not be able to save a marriage getting into the lifestyle at this point.

Scores between 51-90
Although your score might fit a sexually active person with a good desire for sex, the swinging lifestyle is not for you!  You will need much more time and sexual interest before attempting to get into this lifestyle.  With the right partner and someone who is very patient and willing to wait until you are ready, it might be something to revisit from time to time.  Your chances of enjoying the swinging lifestyle at this point are very slim.  Never place or answer swing ads.  If you must try something in the swing lifestyle, only try an entry level club with erotic dancing first.

Scores between 91-160
This is definitely a grey area for many of you.  You are torn between the enjoyment of regular sex with one partner, but find the idea of swinging very intriguing.  You could go either way with swinging, you will hate it or you will be a total convert to it!  The only way is to experiment a little and take your time!  Never let anyone push you.  If it is not for you, say so, but don't be shy to give it a serious try.  The higher your score in this area the better.  If your score is at the low end of this scale, definitely wait a bit longer.  Many couples in this category will go through a hard time adjusting to the swinging lifestyle.  Some of you will definitely be ready to try swinging, but most of you are not.

Scores between 161-200
Welcome aboard! This is the minimum category we recommend as a person who will truly enjoy the swinging lifestyle.  You are more than ready to experiment and grow into the swinging lifestyle.  You will not find the lifestyle boring.  You will have a great deal to offer and enjoy in the years ahead.  None of you in this category will have any difficulties adjusting to the swinging lifestyle.  There is always a few rough spots, but you will enjoy the entire journey.  Take the first step and visit an Erotic Social Club or attend a swingers orientation night at a private club.

Scores between 201-260
You are definitely a sexually hot person and your presence is definitely wanted in the swinging lifestyle.  You will enjoy swinging as a great deal of sexual fun.  You will probably engage in swing activities on a very regular basis.  You will contribute a great deal to the enjoyment of others.  You were definitely suited to play in the swinging lifestyle.  You will totally enjoy any on-premise activities or clubs where sexual play is common place.  You would find entry level or erotic social clubs very boring!

Scores between 261-320
What are you waiting for!  The swinging lifestyle is definitely the playground you will enjoy immensely!  You will probably make swinging a lifestyle choice and contribute to it in many ways in the years ahead.  You are definitely considered the cream of the crop among swingers.  You just want to let your hair down and have sex with new and exciting people.  You love it all and the on-premise club would be your best playground for sexual encounters.

Comparing Your Results

 

Here comes the hard part.  After you have calculated your individual results, it is paramount that both of you compare your scores.  If you are both in the same category of points, CONGRATULATIONS, this is the best match for sexual harmony.

If both of you fit into the minimum swing category of 161+ points you will both have a great deal of fun in swinging as a couple!  Couples who enjoy swinging the most fit into this category.

If both of you are below 161 points, you should take more time and if you enter or try the swinging lifestyle go very slowly.  Always go at the pace of the slowest partner.

If one of you is well below 161 points and the other partner is well over 161 points, the swinging lifestyle could be a terrible mistake on getting into!!!!  Please don't try it.  When a couple have a hugh imbalance between scores, it never works out very well.  Only couples who have an equal love or balance of sexual libido will truly enjoy the swinging lifestyle together.  We see too many couples where one partner has a high sexual drive and their partner is being pushed reluctantly into the swinging lifestyle.  You must have an equal love and enjoyment of sex to truly enjoy what swinging has to offer.
 

 

The End